I cannot motivate YOU!!!

Written Sajeev Nair, Jan 11th, 2015 | Category: About Sajeev Nair, Entrepreneurship, Life, Life Coaching, Motivation, Neuro Linguistic Programming | Comments: None

Every other moment Entrepreneurs come across with various questions in their mind like, “ I don’t know how to have the self drive all the time?” “How to keep myself motivated?” “When I face challenges how can I move forward?” etc.

I have done thousands of motivational sessions covering lakhs of people.  I still do it.  After the sessions I have received unbelievable feedbacks about the session, “this was an unbelievable session,” “I am totally charged up,” “Your session has changed my life,” “What a magical spell,” etc.  But the sad thing is that only very few ever make a significant difference in their life after attending the session.  The rest of them forget about the session in two to three weeks time.  I have heard and read so many trainers and authors making claims like, “who ever have attended my sessions, have changed their life in a massive positive way,”  “whoever have read my books have taken a 180 Degree U-Turn in their life and started moving towards success.”  I am sorry to state that I don’t believe in these kinds of statements.  I don’t think any speaker can motivate his audience to take some strong decisions and move on to become successful; no author can motivate his/her readers to take a life changing decision and move towards massive success in life.  At the same time I am not making a statement that all trainers and authors are ineffective.  I still believe that the motivational trainers and authors are helping millions of people to change their life in a positive direction.  I, myself, am a typical example.  Whatever I have achieved in my life during the last 10 years, I heavily owe it to the training programs I attended and the books I have read.

Even I get so many strong positive feedbacks on my blogs like, “your blogs have opened my eyes,” “I am now experiencing a whole new perspective towards life,” I am getting better results in life as my attitude towards people have changed after reading your blogs,” etc.  These trainers and authors are definitely helping lot of people to change their course of travel and achieve better results in life.  My point is, not every one makes those positive changes in their life after reading a book or reading such blogs or after attending motivational training.  Had it been solely the effectiveness of the trainer or the author everyone should have made significant positive results in their life.  That means, how good a trainer you are, how good an author you are, you cannot motivate everyone.

Why is it so?  The basic rule I believe in is, “Nobody can motivate anybody.”  Why?  Because, motivation is internal.  It is within.  It has to come from within.  A trainer or author only can inspire others to get motivated.  They cannot get inside their mind and work within their mind.  In short an effective trainer or author can only inspire others to get motivated.  But only very few ever get motivated.  Do you know why?  Do you have any idea who may be the people who get motivated?

The Motivation is formed from the word ‘MOTIVE’.  Motive means aim, goal, your intention in life.  Hence motivated means driven towards a motive.  If there is no motive there is no motivation.  And that no one can build or create a motive for you.  Hence you need to find what is your motive, what do you want to accomplish in your life, in which way you want your life to be designed, what is your intention in your life etc

As said in Brihadaranyaka Upanishad

“You are what your deep driving desire is; As your desire is so is your will; As your will is so is your deed; As your deed is so is your destiny”

Entrepreneurship Lesson 1

Written Sajeev Nair, Jan 5th, 2015 | Category: About Sajeev Nair | Comments: 3

To get into an entrepreneurial mode one has to bring in radical

change in his/ her thinking process, especially if one is coming from an employment background.  Lot of people get excited about some business idea and jump into it.  Even after putting in their best effort they find it tough to succeed.  One of the reasons is that they haven’t come out of the employment mode.  Recently I met a successful businessman who was remembering the mistakes he did in the first three years of his business.  He was working with one of the leading companies in India in a high position.  He decided to take voluntary retirement so as to start the business.  Only once he got out of his job, he realized that all the people around him used to respect him only because he had a position.  The first few months in his business was frustrating as he was used to the habit of getting things done by others in his previous job.  While in job he had never taken a photocopy by himself, never filed anything personally, never ever worried about dealing with statutory authorities like Service Tax and Sales Tax authorities as there were subordinates who did these jobs for him.  His own words, “It took sometime for me to understand that in business one needs to have a first hand knowledge of everything related to the business.  This could be obtained only by doing things personally.”

Willingness to do any task to achieve the desired goal is a ‘must’ for entrepreneur.  For this one needs to have lot of flexibility.  Try to have a first hand experience of all the activities connected with your business.  If you want to be a successful entrepreneur, you need to soil your hands. This is the reason why most of the businesses collapse when the second generation takes charge.  The first hand knowledge and experience one gets while setting up a new business, is not easy to gain by a second generation entrepreneur.  Hence for a second generation or third generation entrepreneur to become successful, he/ she needs to learn and do the most basic level tasks.

Many of the people who are employees decide to start a business of their own, mainly to avoid the pressure at the work place.  No one likes to work under some one else.  But if you are in a job you have no other option, but to work under someone else.  When you start your own business you don’t have to work under the pressure of a boss.  You are your own boss.  It looks very fascinating, isn’t it?  But there is a flip side to it.  As there is no boss there is no one else to drive you, there is no one else to set goals and put targets for you, there is no one else to monitor your work, there is no one else to discipline you…Hence the chances of failure are very high.  That is why not many people become successful in business.  Only if you can drive yourself, you can set goals for yourself and strive to achieve them, only if you have self-discipline then only you could become successful in any business.  When I decided to quit my job and pursue with my business full time, one of my senior business leaders gave me an advice, which I think was a million dollar advice.  He told me that before I resign from the job, at least set one room in my house as an office and have a regular reporting system like that in an office.

It is easy to discipline others, but the challenge is always having self-discipline.  It is easy to drive and motivate others than keeping yourself driven and motivated.  A successful entrepreneur is self-driven, self disciplined and self motivated.  You will come across with challenges all the time.  Things may not happen the way you wanted them to happen.  You may find that the plans are not coming true.  But if you want to succeed you need to be consistently driven, disciplined and motivated.  As I read somewhere the true test of character is how you behave when every thing is going in the wrong direction for you, when you are finding that nothing is happening as per your plans, when all situations are turning against you, when you feel there is no one to support you.  It is not easy.  But all the successful people have gone through this phase.  I call it as the Entrepreneur’s Pain.  But if you are focused, Self Driven, Disciplined you will reach the destination.

Success Cycle

Written Sajeev Nair, Jul 2nd, 2014 | Category: About Sajeev Nair | Comments: 2

‘Success remains as a dream.’ Many people approve this statement

Is there a way to make Success a reality? ‘Hard work’ is the normal prescription. There are many who take this ‘hard work’ pills regularly, still not getting the remedy towards success.

During my discussions with many successful people from various walks of life, I could register three key words in connection with success: Belief, Action, Results.
Belief makes you to Act and Action leads to Results. Try to replay in your mind some of the successes you have created in your life; you would agree that in all those cases you acted on something you believed in.
Moreover, increased belief leads to stronger action. RIGHT action leads to right results. Action leads to result is Universal law of ‘cause and effect’ . I would like to say ‘right action.’ If you keep on hammering a stone it will break; provided you are hammering on the same spot; that is right action.

Belief ignites Action and Action leads to Result and Result creates more Belief which translates into stronger Action and better Results and so on. This is the real ‘Success Cycle.’

Now you may ask, “if so, where should I start? Should I increase my Belief in the project before I act? How can I increase Belief?”
I think the toughest thing one can ever do is ‘increasing belief.’ Belief has to happen, its tough to create belief. The only thing on which you have control is ‘Action.’ If the project (personal or professional) sounds logical, just swing into action. Don’t wait for belief to come searching for you! The good thing with Action is; if it is the right Action you will get the Result as ‘cause and effect’ is a universal law.

Hence Action leads to Results and Results will boost your Belief, which in turn will ignite more Action and hence better Results and cycle goes on…

Kick start your Success Cycle today.
God bless


Written Sajeev Nair, Apr 20th, 2014 | Category: About Sajeev Nair | Comments: 1

Today the entire world is celebrating Easter: the Day of Resurrection

It’s a feeling of happiness and new hope everywhere; that’s is what resurrection is all about.

Jesus Christ said to her,” I am the resurrection and the life.  He who believes in me will live; even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die.  Do you believe this?” John 11:25-26

For the last few months I am also experiencing the hope for resurrecting something which could be path breaking for the world.  I am an entrepreneur and one of my businesses has been Direct Selling.  Compared to any other business I always love Direct Selling, as this is the only business through which you can help others to become entrepreneurs.

In Direct Selling I have been dealing with wellness products.  In fact when I got into wellness in 2000, there was absolutely no awareness in India.  However through intense workshops and series of education programs I along with my business leaders covered lakhs of people and made them aware about wellness. The only sad thing was, after educating people about wellness products, we used to recommend American Nutritional Supplements.  Though they were all of highest quality, I always felt a pain.  While India has the oldest form of wellness knowledge, Ayurveda, which is 5000 year old wisdom, we were promoting products from west.

It was a dream for me and many people like me, who are passionate about wellness, to see Ayurveda leading the show in wellness.  Instead of we bring the nutritional supplements from America to provide wellness to Indians, how great it would be if we could provide wellness to Indians through our own Ayurveda.  Moreover, how great it would be when we take our Ayurveda to other countries and make it as a means to achieve real wellness

The challenge was to find a company, which could provide Ayurvedic products, which can stand at par or above with the International Nutrition Supplement brands.  That intense desire and dream made me and many other people finally creating a brand ‘AYUSANTE.’  Now I know Ayusante is a blessing.  It is the resurrection of Ancient Indian Wellness Wisdom.

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